Can a person’s responsibility to others take precedence over his or her own life?
Interestingly, a survey was conducted by OECD (the Organization for Economic Co-operation and Development) of 60,000 people in more than 180 countries asking “What matters most to you?” Based on what their website shows (link further below) the responses were limited to 10 categories and then the top category for each country that was surveyed was identified.
Here are the ten categories alphabetically:
What, you might wonder, was the top category in the United States? It was “Life Satisfaction”. What about our near neighbors Canada and Mexico? Health and Education respectively. Most of the South American countries also prioritized “Education”, yet not surprisingly in these times, the top category in Venezuela was “Safety”. The countries in Africa vary remarkably in responses compared to those in South America. European countries are much more similar and were mostly in the “Life Satisfaction” or “Health” categories.
Although I can understand that each of these categories is important, more interesting to me is that my top category is not among the ten they chose to ask about. You see, for me, I go back to the most difficult days of my life and ask “What were the key factors that got me through that dark period?” The answer for me was “Faith, Family, and Friends.” In that order. Family and Friends would no doubt fall under “Community” in their survey, but where is Faith?
Looking at Paul the Apostle’s life, he risked everything including his life and his health for his faith.
In Pauls words we read:
But I do not consider my life of any account as dear to myself, so that I may finish my course and the ministry which I received from the Lord Jesus, to testify solemnly of the gospel of the grace of God.
Can a person’s responsibility to others take precedence over his or her own life? Of course, and it happens all the time. Look at the first responders going into the World Trade Center after 9/11 or during earthquakes, volcanic explosions, floods, fires, etc. Look at our men and women in uniform defending our country in the Armed Services or the Police Officers attempting to save hostages in a school or office complex.
Paul risked his life for many years, even after having been imprisoned multiple times, beaten with rods, stoned, shipwrecked and threatened with many other dangers. You can read his words in his 2nd Letter to the Corinthians, in the 11th chapter.
Why would someone go through such ordeals and dangers over such a long period of time, eventually even being beheaded in Rome? For his faith. Because he knew, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that his very life was a gift of grace from God through Jesus Christ who spoke directly to Paul on the road to Damascus.
As I ponder the reality of what Paul’s commitment to Jesus must have looked like I am humbled mightily. Yes, categories such as Safety, Housing and Jobs are important. But this one man, Paul, had a higher calling than even these. He knew for certain that he served the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords. He knew that if we build up treasures in this life they will be eaten by moths or destroyed by rust. His eyes were set on the things above, on the building up of treasures in heaven. Paul proclaimed the good news of the gospel to those who were lost.
One of the many questions we face in our lives is “Will we be good parents?”
One of the many questions we face in our lives is “Will we be good parents?” After all, it is one of the most important roles we will have.
Think of the years we spend in school learning mathematics, languages, history, sports, science, business… Now think about how many classes we took that dealt with how to raise a child. (crickets…)
It is clear that public education is woefully inadequate in preparing us for the role of parenting. Perhaps that’s why bookstores offer so many books on this subject. Even so, can reading books prepare us for our role as a father or mother? Should schools suddenly decide that parenting classes are important, would such classes actually help? Or are we somehow able to learn to parent from our own experience as children? Can we completely rely on the example of our own parents? Do we even recall all the trouble we put them through?
My sister and I were blessed with good parents. Our parents truly loved and nurtured us. Our father was successful in business and thus was a good provider. He loved the outdoors, specifically fishing and bird hunting, and instilled a similar passion in me. Our mother doted on us and seemed to be always anxious about our health and our friends. We lived in safe, stable neighborhoods, free from crime, drugs, prostitution, gangs. We went to church on Sundays. We were in religious schools through the sixth grade. As our father served in the Marines during World War II, we proudly displayed the flag of the United States of America next to our front door on many holidays.
When my wife Cindy became pregnant with our first child, Brian, I was elated. I expected that she and I would have a family experience similar to my own. She had also grown up in a family with good parents. Her father had been a fighter pilot in the Air Force. He would eventually build his own business. Her mother lovingly raised Cindy along with her two sisters and two brothers. The church was part of their lives when they were young.
We thought we were more than ready for a baby. Let’s do this!
For those that are reading this that have children, you know that there is absolutely no way to be adequately prepared for the role of parenting. It is complex, demanding, frustrating and yet rewarding and totally worth all the effort.
All our weekend trips and vacations were family events, with a few exceptions that were company-sponsored events. We spent a lot of time with our children visiting beautiful, diverse locations such as Alaska, Washington, Wyoming, Florida, California, and Arizona. Memories to last a lifetime. We also invested in them spiritually, through church and through reading God’s word. They knew what Christmas and Easter were really about.
So one would look at our past history and think that all should be well with our children these days. Yet we live in a world full of danger as well as promise. It probably only took five seconds for a car to pull out in front of our first-born son when he was 18 years old, riding his shiny, blue and silver motorcycle. There are a lot of 5-second intervals that need caution in 18 years. You can’t be prepared for all of them.
Even in the best of schools, in the best of neighborhoods, there are drugs and alcohol that endanger our children. Our middle child was convinced that he would not become addicted when he sampled them. Most children, especially boys, think they are invincible. He is now, thankfully, on a path that can lead to lifelong sobriety. But he has experienced much pain and anguish over a number of years to get to this point.
There are also deceptive dangers in this world. The good life of money, cars, fancy clothes, rock stars, and fame can be enticing. What could be wrong with such things? Yet we have worried about our daughter who finds enjoyment in such things. The Bible tells us that where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. In the end, such things are empty of value and leave us unfulfilled. That can be a bitter pill to swallow.
So we continue to pray and we encourage all parents to draw near to God. As your children become adults, as ours have, entrust them to the will of God. For no matter how much we might want to take action in the lives of our children, the simple act of falling to our knees in prayer is always the best place to start.
We all have the ability to hope. But do we have the ability to persevere in hope during the darkest days of our lives?
The Ability To Hope
We all have the ability to hope. But do we have the ability to persevere in hope during the darkest days of our lives?
No matter how hopeless a situation appears, no matter what the world throws at us or how often we have failed, our ability to hope is always within us.
Like A Whirlpool
Have you ever felt that a situation was hopeless? At the time, did you feel that there was simply no way out, no chance for rescue or relief from the pain and suffering or impending doom? Such feelings seem to feed on themselves, to grow even stronger. We liken it to a downward spiral as if we are caught in a whirlpool.
A Rock and a Hard Place
Perhaps, instead of a whirlpool, you felt you were caught between a rock and a hard place, as Aron Ralston was in 2003. You may have heard the story, or seen the movie made about the incredible incident. It was called “127 Hours”.
The date was April 26th of 2003. Aron was “canyoneering” alone in Utah in Blue John Canyon, a “slot canyon” which is a narrow, winding chasm eroded over many years. He was 8 miles from his vehicle. A cardinal rule in such adventures is to let others know of one’s plans. Then, should you get into trouble, should you not check in at an expected date and time, help will be sent.
Aron had not told a soul of his plans. That oversight would cost him dearly.
As Aron was climbing down into the canyon, an 800-pound boulder became dislodged and his right hand was tragically crushed and pinned against the canyon wall. It would lead to what he would later say was “six days of terror and horror.”
Aaron had little food (two burritos) and little water. He tried for several days to free his trapped arm, all to no avail. Temperatures dropped at night and his strength wained. His hope of rescue was gone. He decided he would have to do the unthinkable: he would need to amputate his arm at the mid-forearm.
I’m not going to relate the details as they are truly ghastly to contemplate. You can read the story in his own words in his autobiography called “A Rock and a Hard Place.” But he did eventually climb out of that canyon, leaving his right hand and part of his arm behind. He also lost 40 pounds and nearly his life.
But Aron didn’t lose his life due to not having lost the most important thing he needed to keep going – hope. He would later tell his mother that he felt all the prayers that she and others were praying. In a video called “Desperate Days in Blue John Canyon” (search on YouTube for that title) he would tell Tom Brokaw:
“I prayed about seeking guidance, what I was supposed to do, finding an option that was going to get me out of there.”
Don’t Believe a Lie!
Sometimes troubles come in waves. One thing happens to us, and then another, and another. Read the Book of Job in the Bible. We may fortunately not have the scope of losses that Job had or get trapped in a slot canyon. But life is full of challenges, and when dark threads are woven into our lives we can get to a point, like Job, in which we also wish we had never been born. We can believe it is hopeless.
There is a key word in that last sentence. Belief.Hopelessness is not a fact, it is a belief. But such a belief may be based on a lie we are either being told by others or are telling ourselves. How many of us, should we have been Aron struggling against that boulder for six days, would have given up all hope? Yet clearly, we would have been wrong to do so. We must never believe we are hopeless.
Our Prayer For You
We pray that you might come to know the One in whom we put our hope. We pray that your heart might soar with the eagle each day at the rising and the setting of the sun.
I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened, so that you will know what is the hope of His calling, what are the riches of the glory of His inheritance in the saints, and what is the surpassing greatness of His power toward us who believe.
~ Ephesians 1:18-19
There is a story about a man who was driving around a conference center in a large city trying to find a parking spot.
Getting Back Home Was The Problem
Waiting, especially waiting in line, may be one of the most frustrating situations we encounter. This week Cindy and I went to Puerto Peñasco, Mexico, for a four-day mini-vacation. Also known as Rocky Point, the city sits at the northern point of the Sea of Cortez and is only 62 miles south of the U.S./Mexico border. We try to schedule our trips so that we avoid long waits at the border coming back into the United States.
What was our travel experience this week? Great going down. Not so great coming back.
Many people travel to Puerto Peñasco from Arizona, especially college kids during Spring Break in early March. We avoided the early part of March as a result, preferring to take the four-hour drive on Monday the 18th with a return date scheduled for Thursday the 21st. Yet when we approached the border on our return trip there was a very long line of cars, longer than we had ever seen. The weather had been wonderful and many other people had also gone on their own mini-vacations.
After about 45 minutes of snail-pace movement, a Mexican police car passed us on the right side of the road. Following him, surprisingly, were dozens of cars that had originally been behind us. Most had United States license plates on them. They streamed by for many minutes until there were now two lines approaching the border. We realized our wait time had just doubled from that point forward. After about 2 hours of sitting in our car, we finally made it to the border.
Waiting is no fun! Especially if you have an appointment to get to. We did, as Thursday evening is when we facilitate our GriefShare group, a support group for those who have lost a loved one. We made it on-time, thankful to God for that.
The Miraculous Parking Spot
There is a story about a man who was driving around a conference center in a large city trying to find a parking spot. He was scheduled to speak to a large audience and feared he would now be late. So he prayed to God saying “Dear God, if you help me find a spot quickly, I promise You I’ll read the Bible every morning and do my very best to attend church regularly!” Right after finishing his prayer, he noticed a car miraculously pulling out of a spot just ahead. “Never mind, God,’ he quickly said, ‘I found one…”
Even though God knows that waiting is not our favorite activity, and knows that patience is often not our key strength, He asks us to wait. But more specifically, He asks us to wait for Him, to experience His presence in our lives, to watch how He will work in situations that we find difficult.
One of our favorite verses in the Bible is Psalm 46:10:
“Be still and know that I am God.” It is also translated as “cease striving”.
A Difficult Decision
One year ago, Cindy and I were in a very difficult position. We didn’t know which way to go. Our thirty-year-old son had gotten himself into a situation that was potentially life-threatening to him or others. We prayed and sought advice from the most respected sources we knew of. Yet everyone we spoke with gave us remarkably different courses of action to take. It was as bewildering as a winding road.
There are three criteria that we look at when making a major decision:
Is it biblical? Does it violate God’s commandments or conform to them?
Do we feel a certain peace from God’s Holy Spirit within us that the specific choice is correct?
What are the circumstances surrounding the decision? Do they tend to point to one decision being right, or in contrast does a door seem to close on any particular choice?
We heard many choices that fit the first criteria. But there was only one choice which fit all three criteria. That choice was to place our trust fully in God to work out the situation in His way and in His time. It was specifically for us to wait on God. In looking back, I can imagine God smiling at that point and saying “Now that you have stopped your anxious worrying, now that you have decided that I have the power and that I love you, please sit back and watch what I can do.”
Within days of our making the active choice to wait on the Lord, He moved in ways that were astounding to us! The situation was diffused, our son was safe and our faith in God was further strengthened. Thank you Lord!
Choosing To Wait Can Be Rewarding
The key point here is that waiting on God is an active choice. It isn’t at all like throwing up our hands in despair and doing nothing. It is intentionally placing our trust in the One who is able to do all things. It is faith in action. We learned a very important lesson that we will seek to always remember.
Yes, there are times that we are to take action with His leading and prompting. But also, there are times in which acting in desperation, without His guidance, will only serve to make matters worse. Sometimes, we just need to get out of God’s way and allow Him to act.
Your comments and thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
No amount of darkness can overcome light, not even the tiny, flickering light of a small candle glowing in the hand of a child.
In northern Arizona, there is a famous slot canyon called Antelope Canyon. It sits in Navajo land and has both an Upper and a Lower Canyon, both of which can be toured and photographed by permit. The Navajo name for Upper Antelope Canyon is “Tse’ bighanilini,” which means “the place where water runs through rocks.” The natural, sandstone walls have been carved into incredible, rippled waves over many years by erosion. They have an orange coloring that glows as light enters in bright rays during specific times. Shades of pinks and blues also grace the upper surfaces of rock. It is, to say the least, impressive!
Some years ago I photographed both the Upper and Lower Antelope Canyons. I timed the visit so that the sunlight would be coming down through the vertical walls which can be as high as 120 feet above the canyon floor. The featured image in this post is one of many that I took, and it is perhaps my favorite. The verse from the Gospel of John came to mind immediately once I was able to look at the image on my computer.
In comparison to the exquisite light of Antelope Canyon, Cindy and I took our children into a lava tube near Mount St Helens in the State of Washington in the 1990s. There, we walked through an ancient tunnel in which lava once flowed through, leaving a massive, hardened exterior of lava rock. Once inside, you are confronted with total darkness. It is absolutely pitch black and you can’t see your hand in front of your face or anything else for that matter. You take headlamps and/or flashlights to navigate your way through the hardened, undulating floor of the tube which runs for over 2 miles.
The contrast between the two locales is striking. Antelope Canyon’s brilliant light and colors are spectacular and exciting. The lava tube, in contrast, was dark and oppressive, yet still quite interesting to see – although once was enough for me.
Light is an amazing thing, and how thankful we are for it. As a photographer, my goal is to capture images in which the light is at its best for the subject at hand. For landscapes, that is in the early morning or late evening. So I think about light a lot.
There are creatures on this earth that God has placed in areas of total darkness. Whether it be at the bottom of the ocean or deep inside caves, such creatures often develop unique characteristics over time where they might lose their natural pigmentation and eyesight or develop the ability to create their own light source. God obviously loves to create and I love all that He has given to us to enjoy with our eyesight.
How marvelous the blessings that we all can be thankful for, that we live in an age when we can see the wonders of the world through television or computer monitor, without the requirement to travel to remote corners of the world.
As the title of this post states, no amount of darkness can overcome light, not even the tiny, flickering light of a small candle glowing in the hand of a child. We pray that you will always be thankful for light. As a believer, remember that the light of God shines within you.
Consider the words of Jesus:
“You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden; nor does anyone light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on the lampstand, and it gives light to all who are in the house. Let your light shine before men in such a way that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven.”
One of the most difficult issues that we as Christian parents face is the transition of our children into adulthood.
At a recent Christian conference, I asked a friend what topic he might wish me to address in “The Weaver’s Hand” blog. After thinking on it, he told me he would like to know more about how parents could encourage their adult children to stay strong in their faith and live Godly lives. It always amazes me how God works. You see, that is a topic that is of major concern to my wife and me as well.
Note: This is a long article, but we pray it blesses you and your children.
The Challenges For Our Adult Children
One of the most difficult issues that we as Christian parents face is the transition of our children into adulthood. We look out at the landscape of salacious entertainment, one night stands, secularism, sexual identity crises, abortion, drugs, pornography, racism, violence, terrorism, political divisiveness, etc. and every bit of it is a worry. We are to be anxious for nothing, according to the word of God. Yet how will our children be able to navigate through such a terrain littered with such dangers? What can we do to encourage our children to make healthy, moral decisions, and maintain their faith?
In the now distant past, parents were concerned about their children finding a wonderful spouse or entering a career path that would allow them the financial means to buy a home and raise a family. Those are obviously still concerns but are now overshadowed by the sinister elements that can leave children not just single or poor but living on the streets or spending years in prison. Pornography and drugs are just two of many vices that are addictive. They can and do wreck marriages and careers, causing our adult children to struggle for years.
We see young adults walking away from belief in God, from the church. As such, their eternal lives are now at risk also. Religious pluralism and the rampant prosperity gospel threaten to lead them away from holding on to truth and from a life devoted to Jesus Christ. Cultural views of Christians as intolerant for our belief in the word of God in regards to sexuality and as the way to salvation through Jesus are putting intense pressures on us. How do parents help our adult children with these issues? What can we do?
The Power of Prayer
One obvious answer is prayer. It is only a part of the answer, but a key part. If we, as parents, let our fears cause us to try to seek solutions on our own, without turning to the One who is able to accomplish all things, we risk much. Placing trust in God through a strong, personal relationship with Him is always the best starting point.
Let’s look at just one of many examples in the Bible and then relate that to the plight of parents in today’s culture. In the Book of Acts, Chapter 12, there is an incredible story which illustrates not only the power of prayer but our view of God, which is often much too small. Let’s look at verse 5 –
“So Peter was kept in the prison, but prayer for him was being made fervently by the church to God.”
Peter at the Gate
Peter, a beloved Apostle, a leader in the early Christian church, had been arrested by Herod who had previously ordered James executed. Peter was to be put through a public trial and then would be executed after Passover. We see from Acts Chapter 12 – verse 5 and following verses – that fervent prayers were being made by a small group of believers. If you had been there, in a modest house with candles burning and concerned voices all around you, what prayers might you have offered? Perhaps you would have asked God to give Peter strength to hold onto his faith even unto the moment of his execution. You might have asked that others at the trial would see Peter’s faith and come to believe in Christ as a result. You might have been thanking God for the impact that Peter had in building up your own faith. You might have prayed that Peter would suffer little and that his dignity would remain intact. Poor Peter!
Suddenly, you hear a knock on the door of the gate to the house. All around you stop praying and look up curiously. A house servant, Rhoda, gets up and goes to the door as you and others exchange looks. You close your eyes once more in prayer. You are startled out of prayer once again, hearing Rhoda’s excited voice as she comes hurriedly back into the room. We read what happened in verse 14:
When she recognized Peter’s voice, because of her joy she did not open the gate, but ran in and announced that Peter was standing in front of the gate.
Peter was at the gate! Rhoda was so excited to hear and recognize Peter’s voice that she failed to let him in. You and the others had all been praying for him, and he was here!
If you have never read this portion of Scripture you might think the following would happen: All those in the house excitedly raised their voices and encouraged Rhoda to go let Peter in at once, as they gave amazed thanks to God for answering their prayers in such a wondrous way!
Yet, that’s not what happened. Not at all. Verse 15 tells us:
They said to her, “You are out of your mind!” But she kept insisting that it was so. They kept saying, “It is his angel.”
You Are Out of Your Mind!
I’m uncertain that God wants us to see the humor in this example but I can’t help but laugh every time I read this passage. The believers had gathered to pray for Peter. Yet when Rhoda was standing there telling them that Peter was at the gate, they said she was crazy. How much faith did they really have in God? Did they believe that God might strengthen Peter in some way, but could not ever imagine Him actually freeing Peter from prison supernaturally? For that is exactly what God had done. Read the entire chapter which details an angel of the Lord appearing in Peter’s cell as he was surrounded with guards and about the chains which fell off his arms.
When we pray for our adult child, how big are our prayers? Do we really expect that God will allow our child to steer clear of the influence of a society gone mad with sexual perversions and the addiction of drugs? Will He do that if we fervently pray, as the small group of believers did for Peter? When our sons or daughters make wise decisions and raise healthy families, will we believe that God answered our prayers with thanksgiving in our hearts?
May Your Will Be Done
It would be a disservice to not state here that God’s will is always done. Our will cannot be placed as an expectation upon God. That’s a hard thing for us to accept. When we pray it must be as Jesus’s prayer in Gethsemane.
“Not my will but yours be done!” ~ Luke 22:42
We must always leave room for God’s will, His solutions. It is quite safe to say that His wisdom and His plans are far above anything we can devise. If we pray for our child who is seriously ill or injured in an accident, we must be willing to accept that God may call them home. When we pray for our child who is addicted to drugs, it may be the Lord’s will that they remain so for an extended season in their life. It is hard. Very hard. Yet God’s grace is sufficient.
There is certainty that God desires to hear the prayers of His people. Philippians 4:6 tells us:
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.”
Yet He is the Master Weaver, and dark threads are often needed in the plans He has for us and others. We know from the experience of our own lives how tragedy and sadness often lead us to a deeper belief in Him. We realize at such times that we are not in control of our own destiny, let alone our child’s. Yet we are to pray fervently, believing that “With God, all things are possible.” ~ Matthew 19:26
They Look At Our Example
Yet prayer, as powerful as it can be, is just one answer to what we as parents can do. Another is our own actions, our own lifestyle, and decisions. Our children’s eyes are always upon us, especially as we tell them we believe in a God that they cannot see. They see a world full of many different beliefs and many who believe that we are all alone in a very big universe. We cannot underestimate how important our example is for them.
We see this play out in nature. Although God has given many of His creations “instinct”, many look to their parents for insight and encouragement.
“Church” is not a building, it is a community.
We, as a community of believers, are the Church. We each have a role to play in that community, in the same way that our ears, our hands, our feet have roles to play. We are members of the household of God, with Jesus Christ as the cornerstone. See Ephesians 2:19-22
Do our children see us in that way? Do our children see us “going to church” on Sundays and yet they see no evidence of God in our lives for the balance of the week? Do they see our excitement for a football team far exceeding any excitement we have for God? When they see us spending our time watching Hollywood movies and no time at all reading the Bible, what message are they learning from us? When our daily verse is what the President last tweeted or what the Democrats said in mock reply, as opposed to what God’s word says, do we help set their priorities on all the wrong things? When they see us get high on drugs, how can we expect them to “set their mind on things above”? – Colossians 3:2
We Are Forgiven
If you are feeling a bit convicted reading these questions, let me assure you I am also. There are many ways to miss the mark, to sin, in this world. Yet Christ died for us, while we were yet sinners. ~ see Romans 5:8 This is not a time to beat ourselves up, but a time to repent, to turn from our sin and devote our attention less to this world and more to the building up of the kingdom of God.
Is it possible for us to be so callous toward God and our faith that we are the ones driving our children to other “gods” such as money, drugs, fame…? On our deathbed, will we say to our children, “I wish I had spent more time at the office”? If one day we stand over the gravestone of our child, will we say “I should have spent more time talking with you about the things of this world like sports, science, mathematics, politics, and how to slay that final dragon in a video game”? How do our children and the salvation of others become our priority, and not our own entertainment and pleasure? Lord forgive us, we know not what we do.
Love. The best of the four letter words. We can love our children unconditionally. That doesn’t mean to enable them to live a lifestyle that is destructive. That will just allow them to destroy themselves more quickly and damage our lives in the process. If we truly love our children, we will raise them up to know and to trust in God, even when we as their parents cannot always be trusted to do the right thing. Be honest with them. Teach them the truth. We have been entrusted with the word of God. Share it with them. Let them see our joy in knowing God and our trust in Him. Let our love for God and our love for our neighbors be what they see when they watch us.
And He (Jesus) said to him, “ ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the great and foremost commandment. The second is like it, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ On these two commandments depend the whole Law and the Prophets.” ~ Matthew 22:37-40
“Now may the God who gives perseverance and encouragement grant you to be of the same mind with one another according to Christ Jesus, so that with one accord you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.” ~ Romans 15:5-6
Your thoughts and comments would be appreciated as always.
There are four primary words in the Ancient Greek language that have been translated into our English word “Love” in the New Testament of the Bible. One of them is quite important to a person who calls himself or herself a “Christian”.
When Americans use the word “love” they might use it in multiple contexts, sometimes with a wry smile. In our house, if one of our children would have said “I just love this spaghetti!”, another might have responded with “Well, why don’t you marry it?” Corny but cute.
In 1995, the phrase “I love you man!” was used in a comical Bud-Light beer commercial. The son wanted a beer from his father, so he professed his love for him in what was an obvious-to-all ploy. But the commercial was funny with an endearing “Hallmark Card-like” tone. As a result, it became a huge hit in pop culture at the time. Perhaps it hit home with some about how we profess love while actually seeking something for ourselves.
Of the words translated to “love” from the Ancient Greek language, the first three are not the subject of this article:
The Greek word “Eros” we translate as love, but it has sexual tones of passion. Our word “erotic” comes from this.
The Greek word “Philia” means love, but it is the love of friendship. The city we know as Philadelphia was named by William Penn, and the name means “brotherly love”. As an aside, among the many historically signficant accomplishments of that city, it was the birthplace of the United States Marines, to whom I have the greatest respect.
The Greek word “Storge” also means love, but it is the type of love that parents have for their children.
Yet the Greeks used one other word for love that signifies an even greater love, a “selfless love”. The word is “Agape”. What is agape love or selfless love? It is a love in which one intentionally puts the good of others ahead of oneself. Such love was demonstrated in its ultimate form by Jesus Christ. It was His intentional willingness to suffer, to be crucified and to die for the good of mankind.
Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends.
~ John 15:13
To be a Christian, one believes that Jesus Christ was the Son of God and that He bore the sins of man on His shoulders on a cross at Calvary. Also, that He rose again on the third day and sits at the right hand of the Father. Such faith is a saving faith. But a Christian is to not just believe, but also to follow the example of Jesus by loving God and loving others selflessly. That is the difficult part. It requires work, diligence, and agape love for others.
And He said to him, “ ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ This is the great and foremost commandment. The second is like it, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’
~ Matthew 22:37-39
You might respond “Love my neighbor as myself!? How is that possible? You clearly haven’t met my neighbors!”
Yet when we look at the love that Jesus brought into the world, we see such love. It was the poor and downtrodden that He came to save. He didn’t reach out to the rich, the beautiful or the powerful of that time in history, but to the destitute, the leper, the tax-collector that most people shunned or despised. He led by example. We are to follow His example, to follow Him.
One of the most quoted verses in the New Testament is this one –
“For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life.”
~ John 3:16
This verse describes God’s action of “giving” His Son, Jesus, for all who would believe in Him. That takes “selfless” to a new level. We would almost certainly be more willing to die for someone than to sacrifice one of our children for them. Can we even begin to understand the love of God?
It frankly isn’t possible for a man to achieve such perfect, selfless love, but Jesus promised His followers that He would send a “Helper” in the person of “The Holy Spirit” to them. Through the study of His word in the Bible, through prayer and through the power of the Holy Spirit within us, we can follow the example of Jesus.
There is much darkness in this world. We only need to do a quick scan of the latest news to see the terror and cruelty that men inflict on each other. Yet love prevails. Christians are to be “set apart” for the gospel of Jesus Christ. We pray that you will believe, trust and follow Him.
Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
~ 1st Corinthians 13:4-7